So, I had a lot of time to think about this past year and all I can say is this, "How the heck did that all happen?"
Originally I was going to talk about all the positives of the past year and go into how you can make your 2018 the best year of your life. However, I am going to deliver to you some adversity that I think you can gain from.
I almost got sued.
I lost my entire business team a few months ago and had to start from scratch.
I was extremely broke.
I ruined a relationship with a girl I loved and it literally haunted me for a year.
I look back at 2017 and I think, "There was some bad- but those are things I think I needed to experience."
It's cliche to say new year, new beginnings.
But, without someone pushing you or life events affecting you, you're not likely to change.
People will say, "That is pessimistic Tex." Well, just like my mentor, Tai Lopez, I am neither an optimist nor a pessimist. I'm a realist.
It takes a spark to start a fire.
Someone has to push you or else you become what scientists call "risk-averse". By the time you reach age 25, you won't have too much neuroplasticity, which means you won't be open to much change in your life.
Be real with yourself right now.
Most people can't even last one week into their New Year's resolution, some can hold on for maybe a month. Procrastination on your goals and dreams is deadly.
Procrastination will kill you. It kills hopes and dreams and leaves you with little. The solution? You need someone to push you.
By the way, don't procrastinate on this talk I did about Time Management on my TexTalk.
For anyone working with me, I am going to be pushing you to your limits in 2018 and I already have for majority of you. My partner and I started a business in six days.
I am going to help you pursue your dreams in 2018.
I am going to help you forget 2017, I don't even know what it is anymore.
I have been an entrepreneur for just seven months now and my network has grown insanely, meeting Tai Lopez, Grant Cardone, Sam Ovens, Cole Hatter, Joe Soto, Juan Valdez and Samir Chibane, Jason Jennings, and more.
I experienced driving a Lamborghini for the first time in my life when I never thought I would even ever touch one.
I started four businesses and was on Tedx.
I am not saying this to boast accomplishment because I haven't done anything yet. I am saying this because I am going to make sure that you too will get your life together and chase your dreams.
Here are a few things that will make your year freaking amazing!
1. Find a motivation that will push you.
For the average Joe, they tend to be pushed by things like stress, feeling lost, and being broke.
This can be a person, it could be your significant other, a huge opportunity, a business, but there is an underlying problem with this.
There is this thing in your brain called Dopamine. Scientists found that when your do something well, it is released into your brain. It a reward that your brain sees.
This is why people take drugs, but let's get off that subject. I hope people get off coke this year.
When you fail, the complete opposite occurs. Something is released in your brain called cortisol. This is a stress chemical found in your body.
Now think about this; what happens if this stress is what is pushing you to do bigger and better things? You are negatively reinforcing yourself that way.
There was this study that scientists were making where they were looking at these tiny things in our brain called dopamine receptors.
They also found that as people started to fail more and more, their brains were starting to get rid of the receptors because it didn't look like they needed them anymore.
It's simply a matter of adaptability. Charles Darwin's theory of evolution by natural selection as an explanation for adaptability and speciation proves key in this conversation.
The brain stops using the dopamine receptors and gets rid of them when we do not need them.
As you start losing these receptors, you become less ambitious. This is why our school system has destroys our society with negative reinforcement.
They will tell us to. "Work hard, do your work and then, we're going to give you a test."
We are bombarded with stuff that isn't necessary.
Forced to memorize things.
The truth is, when people aren't interested in learning or curious, they become complacent.
Teachers aren't even interested anymore.
The average person person, after graduating college won't read a book for three years, why is that?
They are burnt out because of the fact that their dopamine receptors have been negatively reinforced so they start to no longer care.
When you are forced to change because of stress, being broke or lost, you actually grow new receptors.
You start to become more ambitious.
The more receptors you have, the less you procrastinate.
See when you're an ambitious person, the likelihood of you procrastinating drops.
Think of that one friend you have who is the least ambitious person you know and look at a particular trait in their life.
They put everything off. They Procrastinate.
Look at the types of excuses that individual will make.
Now you may be saying to yourself, "Tex, I know all this stuff already."
It's not what you know though, it's the action you take, so take action and do this in 2018.
If you change your environment socially, you will be pushed to be better.
Let me say that again, If you change your environment socially, you will be pushed to be better.
2. Look At Who You Surround Yourself With
Now let's get back to reality, all these traits that negatively affected you last year, you're going to change this year by allocating your time wisely by surrounding yourself with people who will push you.
You can not hang out with the same people you did last year and expect a great amount of change unless something in their life sparked their own change.
It's almost impossible. Something my mentor, Tai Lopez always says is, "You can't change without a change in routine."
What's the biggest part of your life?
Social interaction, you need change your social routine this year.
I made this decision 7-8 months ago and it changed my entire life.
While I do love my friends, I knew that I needed to spend less time with those that didn't believe the same things I did or could push me to be a better person.
I am not saying take hem out of your life entirely. A rule I live by is the law of 33%. I spend 33% of my time with those who I have nothing in common with in terms of goals, say friends maybe, 33% of my time is allocated with people on my same level and then 33% is spent with mentors.
Mentors generally are someone who is more knowledgeable about something you want to know more about. I have dozens of mentors.
Think about your day and your dreams.
Dr. David Buss, a former Harvard professor, said that there is competition for your own 24 hours you have in a day and if you spend it with the same people that aren't going to push you, you won't be able to add in new people to learn and grow from.
There is only so much time in a day.
Something that was put into insane perspective by an informal (Do not talk on regular basis) mentor of mine, Jaiden Gross, is the value of time.
Look at a self-made billionaire and think about the difference between you and him. Obviously a billion dollars right?
Now think about what you and that billionaire have in common.
Time. You both have 24 hours in a day but he's making a billion dollars a year and he is self made.
There are more self made millionaires and billionaires on the Forbes list than those who received million dollar loans from their father.
Why? Because they know that their time is worth and who they will spend their time with.
If you make $50,000 a year and you worked for two years, you still wouldn't make what a billionaire would make in just one hour.
Each hour you waste, that billionaire is making $114,000.
Think it's important to spend your time with people who will push you to be better now?
3. Turn Off Your Notifications
This tip is probably one of the most important tips I can give you this year.
On my phone, I turn my notifications off. I turn all of it off.
If you know me, then you know I am on social media a lot. It's all planned. I don't waste my time scrolling for hours on hours to see what everyone is posting because it doesn't matter.
I look at my social media when I want to, not when the owner of Facebook wants me to. Dopamine is released by these apps and they literally become addictive. Too much of anything will put you in a bad state.
You can definitely use social media, I use it for my personal ventures and business ventures all the time but think about how who is in control. Would you be able to shut it off for just a day?
My mentor, Tai Lopez has millions of followers so he'll take just fifteen minutes a day to check his social media to answer good questions but that's it.
Personally, I have just 2,500 so why should I be letting it control so much of my time?
The average person checks their emails 20 to 50 times a day. It's a complete waste of time.
Focus on one thing at a time. Confucius, the great Chinese philosopher said, "The person who chases two rabbits, catches zero rabbits."
P.S. Always seek knowledge, the average CEO reads 60 books a year.